“I have always belived, and I still believe, that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value.” (Hermann Hesse – “Siddharta”)
Choosing the profession of psychotherapist was not a coincidence but was due to my passion for psychoanalysis. This specialization is not only theoretically, but also a clinical one and deals, very briefly, with the intra and interpsychic dynamics, intra and inter-relational dynamics, with conscious and unconscious conflicts, etc., aspects that are revealed slowly by slowly in the therapeutic process.
I believe that the approach of a therapy is a co-created one, so I also invite my patients to make and build together a relationship that will become the link of change itself. This relationship is necessary for safety and trust and is for me the most important pillar of the therapy. As much as possible, I follow my patient in those inner places that they want and / or they can go. This involves for the one who comes to investigate and to share (as she/he feels!) the needs, desires, fears, frustrations, anxieties, obstacles and successes, disappointments and hopes, sufferings and joys, feelings, fantasies and thoughts of all kinds. Thus, as in a puzzle, we gather piece by piece to complete the picture, the historicity of each on the past-present-future line, reaching together to the internal truth that will be the anchor for the external reality.
To know how to listen and see what is beyond the words, non-words, beyond the actions and inactions represents for me a big challenge. This “knowing” doesn’t supposes neither omniscience nor omnipotence but is closely related to “not knowing”, a position that puts me in the role of questioning and questioning myself, of being curious about unpredictability and transformability of the complexity of the human mind and behavior.
The position between knowing and not knowing, is exactly the transitional space we always need in the therapeutic relationship both to be next to the other (to support him) and to be with the other (to contain him) for good and for bad. This involves a continuous process of self-knowledge and knowledge of the other.